I'm Lucky

Over the last few years I've had a great number of people come to me for advice about marriage.  It seems that they are always experiencing a great deal of conflict in their relationship and want my advice, like I have some secret.  LOL.  At first I felt honored to try to help others.  Then I felt irritated at both people and the obvious selfishness that was creating the conflict.  After awhile I just felt annoyed that people wasted my time asking for the obvious and never taking any advice.  Now?  Now I no longer engage in the conversation. 

I've come to realize that I don't know the first thing about dealing with conflict in marriage.  You see I've had it easy.  I'm lucky you might say.  I got married a long time ago and I think it still feels like a honeymoon.  We get along.  We love being married.  We have fun.  Of all the things I would love to change in life, being married to Kathy is definitely not one of them.  

So now, if you are thinking of coming to me and asking for advice about conflict in your marriage, let me save you time and give you my answer.  "I can't really help you.  I love being married.  I don't know or understand what you are going through.  Kathy is great.  Kathy probably makes my marriage what it is by being the most selfless person, but I also try to put her first.  The bottom line.  We are in our 17th year of bliss and honeymoon.  Sorry I can't help."